Hello !
Same problem, another forum: https://forum.armbian.com/topic/9105-nanopc-t4-fan-connector
Meanwhile I received the parts to build the connector/cable:
On board: JST BM03B-GHS-TBT
plug-housing: JST GHR-03V-S
plug-contacts: JST MINI-SSHL-002T-P0.2
Soldering? Just forget it. The parts are so small. I just ordered a preconfigured cable via eBay.
But the main problem seems to be that the fan is runnig at highest speed, ignoring the PWM signal.