So , besides the fact that i'm blind as a bat , the problem was a file path in the SPI library.
To be able to use the SPI lib for OrangePi Zero you need to go to the source file of the library and change the path name from
const static char *spiDev1 = "/dev/spidev0.1";
to
const static char *spiDev1 = "/dev/spidev1.0";
that is it
it worked for me and i can use the SPI lib.
L.E. I checked the github , it was fixed, but if by any chance you download other versions check this issue.