yep, thats how i connected them i think it might be that? ill try to get some fresh wires and see if it helps

Your gpios lines are declaring reset="i6" and dc="h4"... is that correct? At this point, we can see that all pins are correctly defined and connected. Maybe wire length issue? Bad terminal connection? My wires are 15cm long... directly connected with dupont connectors.

Boot while looking at the serial output, what do you see?

Self compiled Armbian Bookworm + XFCE with Linux Edge 6.15.x Then follow all the instructions in https://forum.armbian.com/topic/32449-repository-for-v4l2request-hardware-video-decoding-rockchip-allwinner/#findComment-176981 Then add extraargs=cma=256M to armbianEnv.txt

Which OS works well for you?