Just as an update, for anyone who cares.
The above setup worked well, but I couldn't help but attempting to get video hardware acceleration in a browser. Since my post above, Armbian support for the Nanopi R6S went platinum (thanks to @Efe Çetin), kernel 7 came out and mesa 26 should provide all that is needed for vaapi/v4l2 support in firefox.
Unfortunately, minimal Armbian Debian with kernel 7 combined with mesa 26 looks to be some time away - that would allow me to run sway, and likely with firefox using video decode acceleration. OTOH, vendor kernel at 6.1 doesn't seem to allow sway to run at all. So I tried Armbian Debian 13 minimal with kernel 6.18, which runs sway just fine, but the mesa version is stuck at 25.2 which in the standard Debian package does not by default support the rockchip hardware yet, I think. In addition, there seems to be some incompatibility with the repository provided here (or I am doing something wrong, which I wouldn't deny).
Fortunately, looking at the Armbian git files I saw that the standard Armbian Ubuntu Noble with vendor 6.1 and Gnome (KDE version doesn't run well) appears to a) work fine with wayland, and b) automatically uses the Amazingfate (liujianfeng1994) PPA. This provides chromium with video hardware decode support, and I can still set up jellyfin. So at this point, without having to compile everything myself from scratch, this is the best setup from my perspective.
Shout out to @Efe Çetin for making it this convenient - which it truly is, even though Gnome isn't my preferred DM.